Feel GREAT Friday! The Most Important Person to Love Is…

Dear future Pinksters,

Who do you believe the most important person to love is? You would probably say your sweetheart or your one of your children, or perhaps your parents. All of those are great answers.

Since yesterday was Valentine’s Day, I am sure many of you were celebrating with your sweethearts.

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What about those of you who are single and don’t have a sweetheart? What if you or your special someone was sick? What if you are allergic to flowers? What if chocolate and sugar make you sick? What if you don’t believe in spending money on frivolous gifts to express your love to your special someone just because it is a holiday?

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What do you do then?

I would like to suggest that you spend some time each day focusing on celebrating the most important person for you to express your love to…I believe that person is YOURSELF!

I am talking about self-love, not selfish egotistical love. I believe if you don’t love yourself first, it is impossible to truly love someone else. I have heard it said that our outward appearance reflects the inner feelings we have for ourselves. Do you agree?

I believe ALL of us would like to look and feel our best as long as we are livingand not just to impress someone else.

The next question becomes: How do we do that? Allow me to offer you 4 simple tips that I hope will do just that.

P stands for: Positively prepare for your day by taking a minute or two to look in a mirror, smile and saying a positive affirmation. Be as specific as possible. Say it at least 5 times. Remember that the words that follow I am follow you!

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I stands for: Include exercise you enjoy doing. Exercise should not be something you dread. It should be fun. Exercise you enjoy releases those feel good hormones: Endorphins. Release the endorphins and energize your day!

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N stands for Notice your beautiful qualities and physical features. Write a note to yourself. Include a list of these qualities. I guarantee you will have a much better day.

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K stands for: Kindness begins with me. Be kind to yourself by preparing a simple, healthy breakfast. Make it colorful. Include berries. I promise you will have a berry good day.

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When we put ourselves on the list and practice self-love now, more often than not, we won’t be forced to practice it when we get sick or develop a disease. It is one of the most loving and simplest things we can do to prevent disease.

Practicing self-love shows our family how much we truly love them because we want to be around to love them as well as be loved by them for many years to come. It IS the best gift we will ever give them.

Try to remember this quote from Chapter 1 of my book: 47 Shades of Pink-improve your quality of life, reduce your risk of developing breast cancer:

The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” Anonymous

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Who you say you are and what you do daily is who you become. They are your gifts to your family and the world. Now go out there and share your gifts! They are essential as you start living your life…in the pink

What are some of the ways you express practice self-love? (Keep it clean.) Please share in the comments.

Would you be willing to try on a free, no obligation consultation to find out how I can help you create a personalized plan that will help you increase your self-love and possibly prevent most diseases in the future?

Are you ready to take the next step to getting on the path to living your life…in the pink? If you said, yes, click here and…

Enjoy your day!

Chris

P.S. To express my love to you for taking the time to read my blog today, please accept my gift to you. Happy Valentine’s Day!

You can download Chapter 1 of 47 Shades of Pink for FREE here.

 Chapter 1 47 Shades of Pink February 5 2019

 

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Feel GREAT Friday! It’s a Onederful life!

Dear future Pinksters!

It’s a ONEderful life! I know our life isn’t wonderful all the time. If it were, we would get bored. Wouldn’t we?

Have you ever read ONE book that has changed your life? If so, I will bet that most people will say that that ONE book is the Bible.

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Most people believe that the primary focus of the Bible is about ONE man who changed the world-the Son of God: Jesus Christ. He was ONE man, yet He made a difference in the lives of so many while He was living and even more since His death and resurrection.

He set the perfect example for us to follow. He came to this earth to do the will of His Father and succeeded because of His perfect love for all of us…His brothers and sisters. His life was a life of selflessness and perfect love.

Wouldn’t it be great if everyone tried to emulate Jesus everyday? I believe our world would be a kinder, more loving place. Don’t you? The best part is, if you are reading this post right now, you are ONE person who CAN choose to do just that.

One smile can soften a heart. I know this is true. It happened to me a few years ago. I attended an event where I knew that ONE person would be there. The ONE person I was determined to avoid, because she had offended me.

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Before I left home to attend the event, I had made up my mind that I would ignore her if I saw her. As it turned out, she saw me before I saw her. All she did was stop and smile at me. I smiled back at her.

the-word-smile-on-a-stop-sign-from-pexels.jpgWe proceeded to have a somewhat strained, yet amicable conversation. It was ONE step in the right direction to mending a broken relationship. The good news: We are still speaking to each other and our relationship is not nearly as strained as it used to be.

cropped word thanks on a silver heart from pexelsOne kind word can make a big difference. That ONE word is…Thanks! The word, ‘thanks’ can unlock a lot of doors by creating new relationships. It can also improve our existing relationships.

one kind word using Upwards game lettersHow many of us pause to give thanks to people who help us along the way or acknowledge a gift? I KNOW we truly will get more of what we give thanks for!

Has the ‘thank you card’ gone the way of the dinosaur? I am thrilled when I receive a hand-written ‘thank you card’ in the mail.

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When I was in grade school, my Aunt Libby started sending me a Birthday card every year with a hand-written letter. My mother was adamant about me sending her a thank you card. She was my first pen pal. We continued to write letters to each other at least a couple of times/year until she passed away.

In honor of Valentine’s day, might I be so bold as to make a suggestion or two? If you are single, stop looking for the ONE right person and start working on developing the qualities of the ONE person you would like to attract.

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Start by doing ONE kind thing for one person each day. If you are married and are not very happy, do ONE thing that will show your significant other how much you truly appreciate them. Remember why you fell in love, then start doing the things you used to do to please the person you were head-over-heals in love with.

The number 1 from my calculatorI guarantee you will see a difference in your relationship. At the very least, you will feel better about doing something special for them. (Hint: You might have to do this on a regular basis before you see a significant improvement-especially if you haven’t done anything special for your significant other in a long time…)

I am going to close with reminding you, that being KIND is ONE thing all of us can do everyday to live a ONEderful life.

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I would love to hear about the ONE kind thing you can do or have done to have a ONEderful life! Please share in the comments. Thank you!

Enjoy your weekend and Happy Valentine’s Day!

Chris

 

Feel GREAT Friday! 3 Tips to Improve your Primary Relationships

Dear Future Pinksters!

Are you feeling GREAT this Friday regardless of where you live or how much snowfall and ice are in your driveway?

Today I want to talk about primary food. I believe most of us know what primary colors are.

Primary colors are the colors that all of the other colors can be created from. They are: Red, yellow, and blue. 

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What is the definition of primary food? The word, primary is an adjective. It means: of chief importance, principal.

Joshua Rosenthal of the Institute for Integrative Nutrition defines primary food as food that we don’t eat. It includes divided four categories:

  1. Relationships

  2. Physical activity

  3. Career

  4. Spirituality

What could be more important than the relationships we have with our family members, co-workers, and friends? I believe primary food could be the foundation that the majority of our behaviors surrounding actual food are built on.

There is no doubt that our relationships can be a primary source of stress or joy in our lives. I believe that is why they are the most important aspect of primary food to discuss first.

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I learned many years ago that ALL of us are connected. My actions don’t just effect me, they effect everyone that I come into contact with everyday. This is especially true regarding the people I live with, work with, and come into contact with on a regular basis.

I want to share with you 3 simple tips for improving your relationships. If you know me, you know I have an acronym that will help you remember them. The acronym is: ASK.

A stands for: Appreciate. We will get more of what we express gratitude for!

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Last Spring, I started keeping a gratitude journal. Every morning I would write down at least five things I was thankful for. After reading through some of the pages recently, I noticed a pattern.

The majority of my entries included: I am thankful for dirty dishes because it means I have plenty of food to eat. (This might also explain why I gained a few pounds…)

I am also thankful for my husband who washes them when I remember to put the clean dishes away, and after I thank him. This way I can spend more time coaching, writing a book, a blog post, or doing homework for my health coaching, and advanced business courses that I have been taking.

S stands for: Seek. Seek to understand BEFORE you seek to be understood. In a world where everyone is trying to get their message across, it is refreshing to find someone who seeks to understand me before they  criticize or shout at me to accept their ideas or point of view.

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Seeking to understand requires asking questions and really listening to what the other person is saying. We are NOT thinking about what we are going to say next, judging, or interrupting them.

(Okay, I admit I have some work to do, but I am trying…in more ways than one.) You knew I had to insert at least one snarky comment, didn’t you?Nothing like a little bit of self-deprecating humor to see if you are paying attention.

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I had a conversation with an acquaintance a couple of years ago where I truly sought to understand her point-of-view. It was difficult to keep quiet while she was offering her constructive criticism of a few things I had done early in our relationship that were, shall we say…less than ideal?

I believe we accomplished more in one hour than most people accomplish in a life-time. We may never become best friends, but at least we understand and respect each other in a way we never had before.

K stands for: Kindness. Kindness begins with me, or you depending on who’s reading this blog at the present time. Everybody loves to be on the receiving end of kind words and gestures. I know it isn’t always easy. It helps to remember that none of us are perfect.

I believe it also helps to remember when someone is having a bad day or is hurting, they are far more likely to speak unkind words or do unkind things. If we really want to improve our relationship with this person this is not an excuse for us to behave the same way.

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I know someone who used to have a plaque in her kitchen that included the following quote:

“Children need your love the most when they deserve it the least.”

The same thing is true about the people we interact with everyday.

I would like to encourage you to…Try on one of these tips the next time you feel a desire to indulge in this area of primary food in your life as you continue your journey down the path to living your life…in the pink! I guarantee these tips are low in calories and a lot more full-filling!

Feel free to share your story in the comments or send an email to me at: try.onsomethingpink@gmail.com

Enjoy your day!

Chris

P.S. If you would to have a one-on-one conversation where we can work out a specific plan to help you improve the other areas of primary food in your life, schedule your free, no obligation consultation today by clicking here.

Feel GREAT Friday! Are You Feeling Depressed? ‘Try on’ a Digital Detox

Dear Future Pinkster!

Am I the only one that has noticed that the theme song for our current generation is: Let’s get digital?

I have been to several group gatherings where most of the people are paying more attention to their phones than they are to the people in the room.

Shopping during the holidays? I saw more people staring at their phones when they were walking through the mall than I did that weren’t. If one of them was you, I won’t judge. I miss the days when ‘eye-contact’ was more prevalent than ‘i-phone’ contact. Please tell me I am not alone.digital devices american-bags-busy-1798948 digital devices from pexels

I suffer from seasonal depression. I have suffered for most of my adult life. The months from November through March are the worst! December can be especially depressing now that my husband and I are empty-nesters and all three of our boys live far, far away. This year two of them were home for Thanksgiving-which usually makes Christmas more difficult for both of us emotionally.

How many of you have heard warnings like these to turn off your phone or other electronic devices?

Just turn off your phone!”

Why can’t you just switch it off?”

Can’t we just talk to each other?”

If you are a professional at rolling your eyes when you these phrases, you probably can’t imagine what living your life without technology is like. Digital devices certainly opens up possibilities for communicating that past generations would have never dreamed possible.

You are probably wondering if it is really that dangerous to stay connected to our devices, aren’t you?

The answer is a resounding YES!

Simon Sinek has an excellent video that drives this message home.Check it out by clicking here.

What are some of the Effects Of Always Being On Our Electronic Devices?

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Electronics make our lives better in many ways, including keeping us in touch with friends and family around the world. But being connected to others constantly can wear on our well-being. It can cut into our long-term happiness and reduce our overall satisfaction with life. For more information on this topic, click here.

The benefits of taking a digital detox for a little while are far-reaching. People who have taken a break from technology report a sense of feeling more closely connected to those around them. (Dinner is on the table shortly after my husband gets home from work versus two hours later and he has eaten most of my walnuts before it is ready…)

When we are attached to our technological devices, our priorities shift from spending time with our loved ones in person. This can easily disrupt our well-being. Stress can easily increase. For example, the people that you love who are not on their devices might say: I’M STARVING! Log-off already! Or put away your phone and nobody will get hurt!

We may feel more depressed and more alone in general when we spend an excessive amount of time using electronics to communicate with others, rather than communicating face to face. I didn’t realize how bad I was feeling until I took a break from my favorite social media platform at the end of 2018.

I took my own digital detox from social media for ten days. Before I did this, a typical day would look like this:

First thing every morning, I log on. After I eat breakfast, I log on. I take an afternoon break for an hour or so. I log on to procrastinate exercising until I have to pick my husband up from work. As soon as we get home, I log on before I cook dinner. After dinner, I log on for two or three hours, watch a movie with my husband, and then log on before I go to bed. Then I have trouble falling asleep. On a good night, I sleep for six hours. 

If this is you, it might be time for you to ‘try on’ a digital detox.

When I began my digital detox, I truly felt like I had an addiction. I wondered what I was going to do with ALL of my free time. The first day, I had withdrawal symptoms. My heart raced. I felt anxious. I was afraid I would fail. I was accountable to my husband and the people I promised on social media. What would they think if they saw me on it when I was supposed to be ”digitally-detoxing?’

Thankfully, one of my closest friends called me on the morning of my first full day just as those thoughts were racing through my mind. When we hung up, I felt like I could make it through the rest of the day. My friend truly was and IS a lifeline. She has been like a second mother to me for many years.

How You CAN DO A Digital Detox Without Going Crazy

A digital detox doesn’t have to mean you cut out technology altogether. You can choose to take a few small steps toward using your devices less and listening to your body and mind more.

(I chose to go completely without. I have tried cutting back before. It never worked for me.) I would like to encourage you to ‘try on’ a few of these tips to figure out what works for you.

Here are a few guidelines to create your own digital detox.

Plan for it. Decide how long you are going to digitally detox. Set a date. Write it on your calendar. Make a commitment.

I love the following quote from Kenneth H. Blanchard about the definition of commitment. I have used it several times over the last thirty years when I made the decision to accomplish something big.

There is a difference between interest and commitment. When you are interested in doing something, you do it only when its convenient. When you are committed to doing something, you accept no excuses, only results!

Then purge yourself of unnecessary electronic equipment. This approach can apply to entire devices all the way down to the apps on your phone. Take time to be critical about which electronics you use on a regular basis. Even eliminating half the apps on your phone narrows down your electronic clutter. It can lighten your mental load, even if you don’t stop using your phone entirely.

Identify the things or projects you can do to replace the time while you are detoxing. Make a list of things that you could spend your time working on while you are ‘disconnected from your digital devices.’ Write them down in a journal or on a notepad. Some ideas are: You could read or write a book, exercise, work on your family history, de-clutter your living space, finish a craft or complete a home-improvement project. Discuss your goals with your family. Find someone to serve. Visit a friend. The possibilities are endless.

I read two books in ten days. How to Live a Happy Life by Jonathan Fields and

The Library of Fates. I will be re-telling the latter in a future Toastmasters speech. I got back on my exercise program and generally felt better emotionally than I had in a long time-even with my seasonal depression.

Nix your excuses. Create some life-lines for yourself. This is why planning for you digital detox is so important. Phone a friend. Write a positive affirmation. Read it when you start feeling a need to connect digitally.

I believe one of the reasons why most of us are addicted to our digital devices is because we want instant gratification. We love feeling validated when we receive immediate responses about something we share.

Here is one example of an affirmation you can use:

The number of likes, comments, and knowing everything that is going on with everybody I know is NOT as validating as connecting with people that I love face to face or hearing their voice right now.

Keep it simple and have fun! Give yourself “breaks” for a day or two.. You don’t have to give up your electronics for a very long time if you’re not ready to do so. Just take the weekend off, or put them away at a certain time after you get off work. Ask some friends to join you. This way you can hold each other accountable.Then celebrate your success together when you complete it. In time, you may even discover that these breaks ARE addictive!

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Taking a break from technology on Sunday has been a rule in my house for many years. It is one of the ways our family honors the Sabbath day.

I succeeded at staying off social media for ten days. I felt incredible! I felt true joy when I accomplished this incredibly difficult goal.

I was afraid to get back on social media when my digital detox was over. After ten days of being ‘disconnected,’ I didn’t want to fall back into my my old habits. I didn’t want my depression to come back or get worse.

When I got back online, did I fall back into my old habits? That is a topic for another time. Stay tuned! I hope you will try a digital detox as you pursue your path to living your life…in the pink this year.

Have you ever attempted a digital detox or a social media fast? How did it go? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!

Enjoy your day!

Chris

 

 

Feel Great Friday! How to Lose Weight…More or Less

ALL processed foods is addictive by design. They are loaded with sugar, fat and salt. In most cases, the processed foods taste better than the original because they have been engineered that way. It’s not your fault that processed or junk foods ARE addictive. 

Dear Pinksters!

Happy Healthy New Year! Welcome to my first Feel Great Friday post of 2019! I changed it from: Feel Good Friday, because I want you to feel great this year! It is my goal to post a few simple tips every Friday that will help you get on and stay on the path to living your life…in the pink!

Because one of my passions IS disease prevention, I want to provide you with simple solutions that you can use to take action as soon as you finish reading this post so you can live the life of your dreams.

Are you sick and tired of reading the same posts year after year about how to lose weight? Are you sick and tired of NOT being able to keep your New Years Resolutions to lose weight once and for all-only to fail half-way through the month of January? Me too! Have you given up on this years resolutions? If so, you can choose to resolve to start working on them today. 

I have a reputation for reading A LOT of self-help books. Most of them spew the same rhetoric about how to lose weight. I believe most of us know why we are over-weight and we know what we should be doing to lose it. We might also know that being overweight contributes to a slew of diseases like heart disease, diabetes, and cancer. 

Since over half of the population in the United States is over-weight or obese, I don’t believe knowledge is the problem. Thanks to the education I received at The Institute for Integrative Nutrition. I have learned that there is no such thing as a one-size-fits-all-solution when it comes to losing weight, because ALL of us ARE different!

I want to keep this post simple…more or less. How do we lose weight?

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Eat more foods that ARE made by plants from a farm. Preferably one that raises crops organically without toxic chemicals. The way nature intended.

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Eat less processed foods that are made IN a plant.

I can’t recommend the book: The Dorito Effect by Mark Schatzker enough when it comes to this topic. The work he has done on discovering what goes on behind the scenes in the food industry is eye-opening. 

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Drink MORE water!

Did you know that our bodies are made up of 70% water? The ideal amount of water we should strive to drink is half our body weight in ounces. For example, if you weigh 160 pounds, it would be in your best interest to drink 80 ounces of water.

Hint: If the color of your pee is yellow, you are probably not drinking enough water.

For simple ways to add more water to your diet, click here.

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Drink less soda.

Aside from the fact that soda is loaded with a lot of sugar, artificial colors and  flavors, it also contains ton of empty calories-which contribute to weight-gain.

When I was 38 years old, I had bladder repair surgery. My urologist told me that soda causes dehydration. Our bodies need water to survive and thrive!

Exercise your whole body more!

Find an exercise you enjoy doing. It should be fun! For those of you who are older, remember  how much you looked forward to ‘recess.’ It gave us a break from sitting, paying attention and studying. I would like to invite you to ‘try on’ a few exercises and make it a part of your day that you look forward to. Write it on your calendar. 

During the Summer months, I like to ride my bike or go for walks with my husband. During the Winter months, this is more challenging. I recently discovered how much fun bouncing on a yoga ball is. I am having a ball!

I haven’t been consistent with an exercise program for several months. I feel like a kid again every time I work out. I LOVE Suzanne Deasons exercise videos. They are easy to follow, relaxing and energizing-all at the same time.

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Exercise your thumbs less!

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I don’t remember anybody ever complimenting me about how great my thumbs look in a pair gloves. If someone has ever complimented you about how great your thumbs look, please share in the comments. I would love to hear your story.

Today marks the seventh anniversary of one of the happiest days in my life. It is the anniversary of the day that I received the news that the bone and CT scans showed NED (no evidence of disease) The bilateral mastectomy that I had on December 16, 2011 had removed ALL seven cancer cells and they had NOT metastasized to my lymph nodes. I would NOT need radiation. My prognosis was excellent.

To celebrate, I would like to offer the first seven people who leave a comment on this post a FREE, no obligation health consultation to see for yourself how I can personally help you lose weight and get on the path to living your life…in the pink! 

Thank you for reading and enjoy your day-more or less…

What is scarier than Halloween?

Dear future Pinksters,

What is scarier than Halloween? If you are a woman, hearing the words: You have breast cancer.

This can be shock to you even if you are expecting it. I know. I knew the minute I looked in my bathroom mirror on October 19, 2011 that the indentation under the nipple on my left breast and the tiny lump just below and to the right of it was breast cancer. My ‘gut instinct,’ Holy Ghost, God whispered this truth to me.

The lump could not be felt or seen when I was laying down. Most doctors do breast examinations when their patients are laying down. Every doctor, nurse and radiation technician asked me to show them where the lump was. The mammogram indicated that this lump was half the size of a pea. It showed up as a tiny speck.

Yet, when I heard those words from my oncology surgeon on November 22nd, (two days before Thanksgiving), I was shocked! I sobbed-even though I already knew.

Thankfully, my gut instinct was correct. Thankfully, my doctors believed me and moved forward full speed ahead with additional testing. One of them told me that the lump I found was mobile and that there was only a 2% chance that it was cancer.

I believe most of you are aware that regardless of whether you are in the statistic of 2% of the population or 99% of the population, for you, that statistic will always be: 100%.

Thankfully, I listened to the ‘little voice’ inside my head that told me NOT to wait.

For those of you who are reading these words, I am pleading with you to trust your gut instincts. Do your monthly self-exams regularly. Look in the mirror when you get out of the shower. Know what is normal for you! Nobody should know your body better than you do!

Enjoy your day,

Chris

Passion for Living

Dear future Pinksters,

“The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” Anonymous

Do you have a passion for living? Are you living the life of your dreams? If not, why not? What’s stopping you?

Some researchers have said that less than 10% of our population is able to retire when they want to and live the life of their dreams?

Most people fear two things: Public speaking and death-in that order! I don’t believe people fear death as much as they fear living. I say this because too many of us don’t truly start living until we are faced with circumstances that could easily end our lives.

Today marks the seventh anniversary of the day that I began my very personal breast cancer journey. I could easily have been dead within six months if my cancer had not been caught early.

Prior to my diagnosis, I felt like I was going through the motions. My two oldest sons were in college-two thousand miles away. My youngest son was a Senior in High School. I had been working for a local charity from the comfort of my home for almost nine years. I lived to work, attend church and make sure my husband and son didn’t starve.

Being diagnosed with breast cancer gave me a purpose for living-if I survived it.

To celebrate the seventh anniversary of my breast cancer journey, I would like to share the following video.

How did you discover your passion for living? What is it? How are you sharing it with the world and the people you love?

My gift to you today is the Introduction and Chapter 1-Passion from 47 Shades of Pink. I launched it today. The subtitle is: Improve your quality of life, reduce your risk of developing breast cancer. If you like what you read and are hungry to read the ‘rest of the story,’ you can find it here.

PDF 47 Shades Introduction and Chapter 1

Front Cover 47 Shades of Pink October 1 2018

 

Enjoy your evening!

Chris